Haven’t written much lately.
Time is of the essence.
Haven’t written much lately.
Time is of the essence.
We all rely on technology. Some more than others. As much as some might avoid it, you still are somehow in the realm of technology, especially if you’re reading this right now! What about those who made this technology happen, the inventor, the creator and the maintainer? Everyone moves up and is recognized for their work, their idea and how they made it happen but the one who made sure they got where they needed to get is in the shadows. I’d like to give a STANDING OVATION to those in the IT field. From the one’s who pick up the phone hundreds of times a day listening to everyone’s complaining and whining, to the one who does what those over the phone can’t do by being physically available and becoming the shield who takes all the hits from the users, to the one who designed the software to make it work for the one who is getting recognized. Now imagine if you removed everything technical from your life. Would you survive or know what to do without all your nifty gadgets that gets you by through the day? Probably not! Recognition is needed all around.
Ever get that feeling when something or someone says or does something in a sense reveals your wrong doing? Perhaps you said or did something to someone. All of a sudden the things they do or say seem as if it’s directly towards you. Now you’re questioning yourself “is that towards me and how do they know?” Perhaps they don’t know it was you but of course you start reacting towards what they did and now you’ve revealed yourself to them and your true colors. Funny how things work in the world! That’s what a guilty conscience does to a person. Reveals to people how cynical you can be. Now with social media, people are brought out of the light more and more everyday. A 1 minute post on a social media platform can break a relationship. There’s only one way around this scenario, a way to avoid this feeling of guilt within. It’s pretty simple actually. Just stop for a moment and think of how can you avoid from having this “guilt” feeling inside. One word and form of action will prevent you from embarrassing yourself…Stop! That’s it. Just plain and simple, stop. Stop doing whatever it is that your thinking of doing. Stop being so selfish. Stop belittling people to make yourself feel superior to impress those who more than likely don’t care about you. In the end, you’re lowering your standards, embarrassing yourself and definitely belittling yourself, not the other person. At the end of the day, is it really worth it all? If you don’t like a person then stop pretending to be their friend. Don’t like what they wear, stop looking. Don’t like what they say, stop listening. Don’t like what they do, stop being around them. It’s pretty simple. Stop. That’s all.
What’s missing? Is it something that’s lost? Is it someone that’s gone? We all encounter one or the other at some point in our life where something or someone is missing from we last left them or is no longer around. Life moves on. Sometimes we may forget what was missing especially if it’s an object, unless that object came from someone who isn’t around anymore. Someone we truly loved. Sure life goes on. We must keep moving. But when we take a moment to stop. Think. Collect. Remember. Never forgetting. The importance of… not what but who’s missing.
There’s always someone we think of when time stops. Someone who’s impacted you so deeply leaving a scar in your mind. In the world they’re missing but in your mind they will always remain.
My first Daily Prompt Post which topic is intriguing and can be argumentative but it’s expected in such and opinionated world we live in. I have other ideas but figured why not join a challenge where there are more innovative ideas.
Protest by definition ” a statement or action expressing disapproval of or objection to something.” For the most part this form of action has taken a toll for the worst. In many cases a protest starts off nonviolent and end up with violence, rioting and injury. Nowadays we take things for granted and between the media and government, they’ve softened and spoiled the country to a point where people riot because they feel a criminal was shot unjustified and of course the media will show you what they want to stir things up more. When was the last non violent protest that actually made a positive impact to society and successful? There were teacher strikes, the war against Iraq, raise on minimum wages and hundreds more; but were they successful after everything done.
Sounds like I’m against protest and what they truly stand for but to be honest, I’m not. I think the higher power needs to hear the truth from those they look down on and it’s because of those people that they are in their corner office view, driving off in their luxurious car into their luxury home. Only problem today is how someone or everyone gets out of hand and lead things to violence. How people want to stop violence by going violent. Is that what we’re taught and teach the next generation? Two wrongs make a right! Obviously that’s not the case. Sometimes you don’t need an actual weapon to get your point across, you need an idea. Your weapons can be taken along with your signs but your idea will forever be yours and the words you say can’t be taken back but with the right people and amount, your idea can be expressed and heard. I’m sure you’ve heard “we should not fear our government our government should fear us.” Of course this has been said in different ways as well but there is truth to this and this of course applies not just the government but major corporations.
How many are working in an organization versus the amount who run it. Perhaps a handful of high end people versus hundreds or thousands working it. What if a handful of workers get an idea to go against the company? More than likely, they get fired and maybe sued. But what if the idea spreads like wildfire and more than half of the works unite to against the company. More than likely they will hear what’s being said and cooperate with this idea as long as it’s reasonable. Of course you don’t want to bring down everything because then the business gets shut down, and everyone is out of work including the one’s who run it of course. Sometimes it’s not about destroying someone else but improving them. Everything has consequences to them and the idea has to be very well thought out, if things are for the better.
We all have something that we’re in favor of whether it’s a color, number, car, hobby or even a person. For the most part it’s some type of material object that usually doesn’t hurt anyone such as a number or color. But what happens when it’s a person? Someone at work who’s your manager’s favorite or even someone above the manager and this can be because they look a certain way, think alike or worse, know them at a personal level. So no matter what you do or how hard you work and education or degrees you have under your built, this person will basically shine more than you. You put in the extra hours, you constantly show this person how to do their job since they were hired out of favoritism in which you and everyone else knows they’re not fit for the job yet they still seem to get credit and appreciated for things while you’re in their shadow. Sucks doesn’t it?
Now imagine that same feeling of never meeting to someone’s expectation at home, with your family! What if no matter what you did and how much you try to succeed in life, one of your parents or worse both parents always expect the worst. Seems to be a common scenario and it’s unfortunate actually. I was always told that I’m the favorite yet this is something I never asked for or wanted. How they would do anything for me yet I was independent since I was able to work and get my own things. I tried working before I was allowed to work simply because I wanted to buy my own things with my earnings. Kids nowadays expect things for no reason at all. They’re soft! Is that their fault? No, of course not because the parent(s) raised them to be a marshmallow, giving them a hundred reasons not to do things because they might get a scratch on their precious flimsy malnourished body. Some families treat their girls how boys should be treated and boys like girls by giving them everything they want and doing everything for them. Everything seems to be backwards to the point that kids don’t even know what bathroom to use and these pathetic stories are being eaten up by the media and it’s allowed. Parents yell at their kids for misbehaving or throwing a tantrum because for the first time in their mindless life they’re asked to do something, but that very same parent goes out rioting because they didn’t get the President they wanted or perhaps someone, that they didn’t know at all, was shot for committing a crime while armed and they feel that’s injustice towards their race. Really? This is what kids have to look up to, these selfish role models we have as parents.
On top of the nonsense and stupidity many parents are doing which already damages kids understanding of right and wrong, let’s add favoritism to the board. Your kid already has issues knowing what to do since you contradict what you tell them and actually show them. I mean, it’s one thing if you don’t like kids for your own reasons so why not make sure you don’t have any by surgery or taking the necessary precautions. Now you have someone who does like kids and starts a soccer team of kids or have a couple if that’s what they decide. Why the favorite though? You had X amount of kids, can’t say they were all accidents at this point, so you obviously wanted them and like kids. What determines like one kid more from the other? Their gender? If you like kids, then you should like either boy or girl equally. Is it something physical from the outside or something internal? You do realize that either way you look at it, this is a human being that you decided to make knowing that he/she might turn out just like you or your partner or perhaps someone in the family! If you feel that this child you created isn’t as smart as you then perhaps you didn’t show them the things that you know.
Just like everyone and everything, you learn by being taught and you didn’t learn the things you were taught on your own. Someone else showed you what you know and who knows, perhaps they thought the same about you. Damn, this kid is as dumb as door knob! Years later, you’re doing the same thing to your kid because you don’t want to do what your parents did to you right? Don’t do to others what you don’t want to be done to you is what you show kids, yet here you are treating your kids like crap because they don’t meet up to your expectations. Perhaps they’re set too high or perhaps you didn’t meet them yourself when you were a child but then you fall back on your own words on doing what was done to you. How about that? In the end, however many kids you have, they’re a reflection of what you created. Your very own Frankenstein that you designed with someone else. If they are smart or dumb, pretty or ugly, thin or fat, male or female…you made a decision on bring that human being to the world. So why favor one over the other? They didn’t decide to be created, you did! Why bend over backwards for one child giving and doing everything that child for no reason, while the other who’s more than likely seeking out for your attention, gets the minimal attention or help? Do you even realize that the one you ignore probably worships the ground you walk on while “your favorite” takes advantage of you because they know they can get whatever they want from you, yet doesn’t give a shit on what happens to you because you raised a selfish prick who expects nothing less from everyone. They want to be treated like a King or Queen because that’s what the parents showed them right before they want to that riot.
What happens when you get old and can’t do nothing on your own anymore? Do you think that this monster you created will come help you when in need or will they still expect you to do everything for them? More than likely they will come back around ONLY when they need something from you. If you can’t provide they leave and perhaps next time will be to collect from your will when you pass! How about the “outcast” or “blacksheep” you treated like shit throughout their life? Guess who’s going to be there next to you when you need help, the one to uplift you and hold your hand when sick or on your deathbed. Of course that’s if they didn’t go into depression because you were such a lousy parent that you couldn’t love all your kids equally.
I don’t think anyone in their right mind says “I want to have a dysfunctional, broken up family where we all loathe each other.” For the most part we want to be together, spend holidays with each other and who doesn’t want to see at the very least, everyone united when taking our last breath. Can we honestly expect this when dividing the family by having a favorite? I don’t think that will be the case and in fact there will be hatred, regret and resentment. Imagine being on your deathbed and thinking back of all the things you could’ve done differently with that selfish prick of a child and distraught other. Why go through it to begin with and not just equally cherish what you created and treat them all equally. Help them all equally and discipline them all the same way. Parenting isn’t easy and it never will be, if you truly want to be a good parent of course. Not saying I’m a good father or I can give advice on being a good parent but at the same time I’m not going to do what most parents are doing now and wondering why this new generation is destroying everything. That’s your own fault, not the TV you bought them or the video game you allowed them to play because again, YOU bought it for them! Don’t blame them for your mistake, own up to it.
Starting off, I’d like to thank Glenn Holcomb for the title which of course opens up the next idea.
Recently ( I mean a few months ago by now) I relocated to a small city West of Orlando from Miami called Clermont. I have to say living in Miami was an experience and not much in a good way. The majority of the people are rude, disrespectful, uneducated and certainly don’t know how to drive. For the most part, the streets and expressways are always under construction and sometimes if the street was smooth at some point, they make sure it isn’t anymore. Doesn’t make sense but I guess that’s what they feel like doing if they have extra funds presumably. The new trend for them is putting these ridiculous roundabouts which will cost them about a million to make due to all the work put into such as lights, sprinklers, decoration such as some unrelated to the area design or perhaps a hideous looking tree. For the most part I feel these roundabouts generally cause more traffic and trust me there is so much of that there it’s making it unbearable to live at.
Visiting Miami is perhaps ideal but keep in mind you will need extra time on your visitation since you’ll be spending lots of it in traffic. Where people have accidents all year round no matter the weather condition or time of day. Where people put their left turn signal and make a right or vice versa and get upset at you for honking or flashing your lights at them if they haven’t slammed into your car yet still blame you for their careless driving. In the end, you’ll end up with the ticket because common sense isn’t so common there and this includes with the laws and those who “enforce” them. Of course this doesn’t apply for everyone either but unfortunately those very few talented and intellectual individuals are stuck amongst the species that can bring humanity to an extinct if they had it their way. It’s unfortunate that being stupid isn’t illegal! It should be…there should be an IQ test for those who actually want to live in certain areas or come into the country. But I guess that’s what happens when you’re too busy trying to make the city “pretty” and not spend the funds on education. People rather look good on the outside than on the inside as well. They rather scam their way into getting that fancy car or house than actually learning something and earning it the right way.
I’ll admit doing things the right way is extremely difficult especially if you want to make a name for yourself but if getting rich or hitting that goal in life was easy then everyone would be doing it. So of course, it’s much faster to take the easy route and for many that’s doing something illegal, unethical and perhaps inhumane. I’ve had my time when younger when I did things that were wrong. It was quick and easy to do and didn’t take me to be a rocket scientist in doing the things I did. The idea at the time of doing those things were simply to get by and through the financial burden I was in. I had a crappy job, left the roof I was under with the clothes on my back and had no car. Making minimum wage and wanting a place to live and a car to get me from point A to B wasn’t going to happen in a very long time. So I did what I needed to in order to expedite the process and once I got those things, I remained doing things the hard way, the right way, but the hard way. Eventually I needed more because I am one who likes to learn more things in order to move forward, so I went to school again.
School. The one thing I disliked and I went back to it. What was I thinking right? Several years ago that was what most places wanted you to do, get a degree. So basically put yourself in a lifelong debt to work for someone else so they can give you a raise just to get by but not enough to pay those loans back. How ironic is that! How many have made the mistake to go to school to learn more, end up owing 50-100k or more so they can make 30-60k just to make that impression and then you end up working with someone who either makes the same amount or more without a school debt simply because they know someone on the inside. Sometimes that lucky bastard end up moving up faster because of it and maybe even become your manager. Thankfully that hasn’t been my case but I’ve heard of things like that. Luck of the draw I presume.
So here I am, relocated about 240 miles north of the torturous ways of Miami, wondering, what’s so different? OK, yes the people are much friendlier than Miami. I give it that much. I thought at first I was being trapped into something or the person wanted something in return on how kind they were but turns out, that’s not the case. Driving is much less than in Miami even though, patience is a major factor. Wow do people drive slow here but I guess I’m just used to that fast pace Miami always has or pretends to have considering you end up doing 2-10mph on the highway anyways. Now cost of living to me feels about the same if you live in an apartment. Yes prices are much lower for homes if you’re out to buy one but if not then you’re in the same boat. I feel the majority of houses should be less if they’re built like gingerbread houses with simply all wood instead of cinderblocks.
How about businesses? This is where I feel I got the short end of the stick. Small businesses here are slowly being and going to be pushed out by franchises. People don’t want to pay the same amount as Miami people are willing to pay but yet the price to have a business storefront is the same, rent is the same, utilities are basically the same. In other words, people are cheap when it comes to pay for quality service yet wonder why the local business has been closed. People need to wake up though because if all small business are closed and pushed out by franchises, the there will be no other option but pay the high priced franchise is charging. This applies for all sorts of businesses too. You’ll be eating $20 frozen food dishes, $70 oil changes, $120 pc repairs etc. all simply because you weren’t willing to support a small business with their $10-$15 homemade food or $20 oil change to mechanic or $60 computer repair service done at your house for 2-3 hours. You were cheap! I get you don’t want to spend hundreds of dollars or you need to save money for whatever reason. If you don’t want to spend that kind of money on food then eat at home, don’t want to do the usual maintenance that a vehicle requires then don’t buy one to begin with and the same applies to computers and everything else that requires some type of managing. Nothing is perfect, you can’t just buy something and not expect something to happen. If Humans aren’t perfect then what makes you think we can make something perfect? Obviously we can’t nor will we so stop bitching and complaining how something happened to your 10 year old purchase. It’s more understandable to ask for a discount or assistance on a service that cost over $100 but to ask for a discount on a service that was $20-50 is like going to dollar store and wanting a coupon or discount for absolutely no reason at all. No barter, no referral, no reason, no discount! That’s how I see it and how I feel it should be. Just like everyone else, owners of small businesses have to eat and pay their own bills as well. They probably have a school debt or small business loan and if they give everyone discounts or things away for free, they won’t pay any of it back and business will fail. Be considerate of those trying to do what they can with what little they can offer!
Ever talk to someone and you feel you’re short for words or perhaps the conversation went a lot faster than you anticipated? Happens to me all the time and yet when texting, messaging or any of these other source of virtual conversations, it can go for hours. I guess I’m more expressive in this manner but then again I know many who feel the same way. I’m sure there’s a reason behind that but that’s not why I feel the need I should blog after 36 years of my existence. I tend to be pretty private when it comes to my life and I hold back things from many including those closest to me. Perhaps it’s a trust issue or simply just the way I was built. Friends and family don’t really know much about what’s going on in my life and less in my head. Sometimes I don’t know myself what’s going on or will happen with these thoughts, are they just that thoughts or are these signs on things I should act on. I wouldn’t trust myself to act on half the thoughts I have in my head, that’s all I know!
So why blog? Well, why not? I think this might be a way of getting things off my chest. Might be self therapeutic, clear the mind a bit, generate new ideas or get to know myself a bit better. Know myself? Yes. You can be amazed on the things you can discover about yourself and what you’re capable of doing, except you don’t know until you try. So my current situation is as follows: At work, all problem tickets completed (since I’m in IT), plugged in my headphones and put on some “Soft Background Music” on Amazon Music and here I am free writing. Temporarily disconnected by those around me until my 2nd monitor shows another ticket come through.
When I mentioned blogging, I was asked why not post or vent on Facebook? Guess that’s what it seems people are using it for but only problem with that is, too many distractions for the most part and people tend to take things out of context and what might be something serious turns out into a joke and deviated into a whole different topic. I don’t see Facebook as personal as it used to be and of course there’s the other problem, when you mention an issue you’re having or experience, people always aim for that person closest to you. I may vent on how someone can no longer be trusted or unreliable and automatically others think “uh oh, problems in the relationship” when it may reflect on either a long term customer or even contractor. I leave names out of course so that creates the problem of leaving it up to the imagination of others and unfortunately many people’s thoughts are as far as two feet in front of them.
If you know me personally, you’ll know that I’m not too fond of people, even though I’m a magnet for people expressing to me everything about their life without me even knowing them. I can be in a sauna with a shirt that says “Do me a favor and shut up” and someone will still talk to me about their personal life and matters they’re going through. I won’t be rude either and tell them to read the shirt so I’ll interact with them as well in the conversation, perhaps agree with them or tell them what they want to hear but in my mind I’m thinking “if I only had the ability to put thoughts in their head and tell them to read the shirt and do as it says.” There have been instances where I see pictures or videos of someone committing an act of kindness and it’s titled “humanity restored” but I feel it takes much more than one or a dozen acts of kindness to save all the years of brutality and inhumane acts taken place for humanity to be restored. I feel humans are the ones to destroy the very own place we live in, Earth. It’ll be out pure and utterly stupidity that destroys our species and every other one along with it. We’re the only species basically working for the majority of entire existence to live on our own planet. I don’t know about others but I find that highly idiotic!
At this point, I’ve been interrupted numerous times and being where I’m at, this is expected, so of course previous thoughts went out the window. Considering this being my first non-technical blog and I started wondering “what shall I write and start off with,” I’d have to say this isn’t such a bad start. Until next time…