We all have something that we’re in favor of whether it’s a color, number, car, hobby or even a person. For the most part it’s some type of material object that usually doesn’t hurt anyone such as a number or color. But what happens when it’s a person? Someone at work who’s your manager’s favorite or even someone above the manager and this can be because they look a certain way, think alike or worse, know them at a personal level. So no matter what you do or how hard you work and education or degrees you have under your built, this person will basically shine more than you. You put in the extra hours, you constantly show this person how to do their job since they were hired out of favoritism in which you and everyone else knows they’re not fit for the job yet they still seem to get credit and appreciated for things while you’re in their shadow. Sucks doesn’t it?
Now imagine that same feeling of never meeting to someone’s expectation at home, with your family! What if no matter what you did and how much you try to succeed in life, one of your parents or worse both parents always expect the worst. Seems to be a common scenario and it’s unfortunate actually. I was always told that I’m the favorite yet this is something I never asked for or wanted. How they would do anything for me yet I was independent since I was able to work and get my own things. I tried working before I was allowed to work simply because I wanted to buy my own things with my earnings. Kids nowadays expect things for no reason at all. They’re soft! Is that their fault? No, of course not because the parent(s) raised them to be a marshmallow, giving them a hundred reasons not to do things because they might get a scratch on their precious flimsy malnourished body. Some families treat their girls how boys should be treated and boys like girls by giving them everything they want and doing everything for them. Everything seems to be backwards to the point that kids don’t even know what bathroom to use and these pathetic stories are being eaten up by the media and it’s allowed. Parents yell at their kids for misbehaving or throwing a tantrum because for the first time in their mindless life they’re asked to do something, but that very same parent goes out rioting because they didn’t get the President they wanted or perhaps someone, that they didn’t know at all, was shot for committing a crime while armed and they feel that’s injustice towards their race. Really? This is what kids have to look up to, these selfish role models we have as parents.
On top of the nonsense and stupidity many parents are doing which already damages kids understanding of right and wrong, let’s add favoritism to the board. Your kid already has issues knowing what to do since you contradict what you tell them and actually show them. I mean, it’s one thing if you don’t like kids for your own reasons so why not make sure you don’t have any by surgery or taking the necessary precautions. Now you have someone who does like kids and starts a soccer team of kids or have a couple if that’s what they decide. Why the favorite though? You had X amount of kids, can’t say they were all accidents at this point, so you obviously wanted them and like kids. What determines like one kid more from the other? Their gender? If you like kids, then you should like either boy or girl equally. Is it something physical from the outside or something internal? You do realize that either way you look at it, this is a human being that you decided to make knowing that he/she might turn out just like you or your partner or perhaps someone in the family! If you feel that this child you created isn’t as smart as you then perhaps you didn’t show them the things that you know.
Just like everyone and everything, you learn by being taught and you didn’t learn the things you were taught on your own. Someone else showed you what you know and who knows, perhaps they thought the same about you. Damn, this kid is as dumb as door knob! Years later, you’re doing the same thing to your kid because you don’t want to do what your parents did to you right? Don’t do to others what you don’t want to be done to you is what you show kids, yet here you are treating your kids like crap because they don’t meet up to your expectations. Perhaps they’re set too high or perhaps you didn’t meet them yourself when you were a child but then you fall back on your own words on doing what was done to you. How about that? In the end, however many kids you have, they’re a reflection of what you created. Your very own Frankenstein that you designed with someone else. If they are smart or dumb, pretty or ugly, thin or fat, male or female…you made a decision on bring that human being to the world. So why favor one over the other? They didn’t decide to be created, you did! Why bend over backwards for one child giving and doing everything that child for no reason, while the other who’s more than likely seeking out for your attention, gets the minimal attention or help? Do you even realize that the one you ignore probably worships the ground you walk on while “your favorite” takes advantage of you because they know they can get whatever they want from you, yet doesn’t give a shit on what happens to you because you raised a selfish prick who expects nothing less from everyone. They want to be treated like a King or Queen because that’s what the parents showed them right before they want to that riot.
What happens when you get old and can’t do nothing on your own anymore? Do you think that this monster you created will come help you when in need or will they still expect you to do everything for them? More than likely they will come back around ONLY when they need something from you. If you can’t provide they leave and perhaps next time will be to collect from your will when you pass! How about the “outcast” or “blacksheep” you treated like shit throughout their life? Guess who’s going to be there next to you when you need help, the one to uplift you and hold your hand when sick or on your deathbed. Of course that’s if they didn’t go into depression because you were such a lousy parent that you couldn’t love all your kids equally.
I don’t think anyone in their right mind says “I want to have a dysfunctional, broken up family where we all loathe each other.” For the most part we want to be together, spend holidays with each other and who doesn’t want to see at the very least, everyone united when taking our last breath. Can we honestly expect this when dividing the family by having a favorite? I don’t think that will be the case and in fact there will be hatred, regret and resentment. Imagine being on your deathbed and thinking back of all the things you could’ve done differently with that selfish prick of a child and distraught other. Why go through it to begin with and not just equally cherish what you created and treat them all equally. Help them all equally and discipline them all the same way. Parenting isn’t easy and it never will be, if you truly want to be a good parent of course. Not saying I’m a good father or I can give advice on being a good parent but at the same time I’m not going to do what most parents are doing now and wondering why this new generation is destroying everything. That’s your own fault, not the TV you bought them or the video game you allowed them to play because again, YOU bought it for them! Don’t blame them for your mistake, own up to it.